Small Habits That Make Me Feel More Like Me

Small Habits That Make Me Feel More Like Me

It’s amazing how one day you can wake up and barely recognize the person staring back at you in the mirror. As a wife and mom, life has slowly become one of those juggling acts-keep everyone else happy, while slowly disappearing into the background. But over time, I have learned that if I don’t pour into myself, there’s not much left to give to those I love.

That’s why I’m so intentional about nurturing the habits that make me feel like me. And let’s be real: it’s not always easy! But it’s 100% worth it. Here are a few things that help me hold onto my sense of self:

Writing and Reading (My Forever Loves)
I am a bookworm, and honestly, proud of it! There’s something magical about being transported into a story or penning down my thoughts-it’s like therapy, only cheaper. Blessings have rained since the inception of this blog because it’s a space where I can let my creativity flow and share my heart with the world.

Books have also served as a lovely reminder that I’m not the only one who thinks this way. I’ve found courage and solace in pages, whether it’s a devotional that speaks to my exact emotions or a fictional character going through a difficult time. Stories and testimonies, in my opinion, have an anointing; they can bring me comfort, joy, and even a good cry when I need it.

Pro mom tip: audiobooks will save the day when your hands are full-or sticky. You can listen to a good book while folding laundry or running errands. Multitasking for the win!

Cooking and Experimenting in the Kitchen
Cooking is, for sure, my love language. There’s just something about whipping up new recipes that just brings in so much joy-especially when it involves experimenting with foods from different countries. Some days, it’s a hit; other days, my family politely pretends they enjoy my “creativity.”

Additionally, I’ve discovered that cooking fosters deeper connections with people. It’s like sharing a piece of your story when you share a recipe or advice with another mother, aunt, or online friend. Food has the power to unite people from different cultures, start discussions, and transform a typical Tuesday into a festive occasion.

But, hey, it’s not just about the food; it’s about the process. Trying something new reminds me that life is growth and discovery, even in small ways.

Hitting the Golf Course
Full disclosure: I am NOT good at golf. It’s become one of my favorite things to do with my husband, nonetheless. There is something freeing about being out on the course, laughing at my missed swings, and just enjoying one another’s company.

It’s also one of those small pleasures that serves as a reminder that we are a team—not just co-parents or strangers we see in the house, but true friends. Through friendly rivalry, casual discussions, and silent silence that speaks volumes, we reestablish our connection. Intentional presence is more important than flawless swings.

Golfing has taught me that the outcome is imperfect and one must enjoy the journey. Plus, any excuse to spend quality time together without the kids tugging on us is a win in my book.

Me Time
Sometimes, the most powerful thing I can do for myself is nothing. Whether it’s soaking in a bubble bath, doing my skincare routine, or just simply sitting with a cup of tea, these moments remind me that it’s okay to slow down.

I used to feel bad about taking a break, as if I had to work for it. I now, however, view rest as a rhythm rather than a reward. It’s one way I honor the temple God gave me and preserve the happiness that fills my house. A busy day can be rejuvenated by even five minutes of silence.

Being a mom and wife doesn’t mean I have to run on empty 24/7. Filling my cup allows me to show up better for my family-and myself.

Saying Yes to Laughter!
Life is heavy, but it doesn’t have to be all the time. I have learned to say “yes” to the little things that make me smile: dancing around the kitchen, watching a cheesy rom-com (even if it’s my umpteenth time watching it), joking around with my friends and family. Joy is not just a feeling; it’s a habit you develop!

And let’s face it, sometimes the tears are repelled by laughter. When I actively seek joy, I’ve discovered that it manifests itself in the most surprising ways. Even the darkest days can be brightened by small things like a friend’s goofy meme, a toddler’s unexpected joke, or simply laughing at myself when I make a mistake.

At the end of the day, these habits remind me that I’m still me. Yes, I’m a mom. Yes, I’m a wife. But I’m also a writer, a foodie, a wannabe golfer, and a woman with dreams and quirks of my own.

Making time for the things that give me life is not selfish; rather, it is essential. It enables me to rejuvenate, contemplate, and re-establish a connection with the self that predated diapers, deadlines, and dinner duty. That woman is still important. She still deserves her own space because she is still developing and learning.

So, to all my fellow moms and wives, don’t get lost in the shuffle. Find what makes you light up and lean into it unapologetically. Whether that’s reading, cooking, golfing, or totally something else, your “you” time matters.

Here’s to feeling like us again 🙂